By Biasi Rocky
Power of Connection

No one has ever said that to me! Recently, I’ve been getting to know new friends (always a lovely experience) and I am reflecting on how we use stories to convey powerful messages of who we are to the other person (our new friend). My friend was sharing a very difficult time in their life

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How to Enjoy Life

Have you ever wondered why the more we tend to have in a materialistic sense, the less fulfilled we are – generally speaking? Despite decades of economic growth,  the population as a whole is slightly less happy. On paper, many have lives that appear awesome, but they’re just not feeling it. Even those with great

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How to Reset Your Circadian Rhythm and Fix Your Sleep Schedule

How to Reset Your Circadian Rhythm and Fix Your Sleep Schedule   Having trouble falling asleep? Or what about feeling tired when you wake up even if you went to sleep at a good hour? By resetting your circadian rhythm so your  sleep schedule aligns with your internal  body clock will be the best thing

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Techniques to Fall Asleep

Sleep is essential for Mental Health and Wellbeing The book “Why We Sleep” by Prof Matthew Walker details critical research that shows sleep is the most powerful thing you can do for your mental health and wellbeing. If you’re an Accidental Counsellor – that is someone who responds to emotional upset and distress without formal

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How to Manage Compassion Fatigue and Burnout

Burnout happens to the best of us, it’s when you feel tired and no longer have the motivation to continue with things you were once so passionate about or enjoyed. A particular form of this is called “Compassion Fatigue.”This specific type of burnout can occur when you have expressed extreme amounts of empathy towards others

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The Accidental Counsellor Short Course Module: 7 Exception Question

  Now that we’ve had posts addressing the wellbeing and connection parts of the Accidental Counsellor, I think it’s time that we take a look at the exception question, another solution-focused strategy. In many ways, our lives, including the problems and challenges that we experience, are like seasons. They come and they go; nothing is

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The Accidental Counsellor Short Course Module 6: Connection

  Connecting is getting into the pit with someone. It includes acknowledging, validating, and normalising another person’s experience. Connection is the place where transformation happens because the person feels less alone. They feel that you get them. The emotional consequences of this feeling are that the person trusts you, feels safer, and begins to calm

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The Accidental Counsellor Short Course Module 5: Wellbeing and Selfcare

As you probably know if you’ve made it this far, the accidental counselor model is based on three core areas or themes: wellbeing, connection, and influence. In this post, we’re going to discuss wellbeing. We’ll begin by exploring the concept of the The Healthy Mind Platter, which was created and first described by David Rock

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The Accidental Counsellor Short Course Module 4: The Accidental Counsellor Model

The Accidental Counsellor Model The Accidental Counsellor Model is based on three core themes animated by your presence. 1) Self Care and Wellbeingso we are not overcome by the emotional distress of others. This also includes appropriate referral. 2)Connection so we are able to validate and acknowledge the person so they feel heard and understood. 3) Influence so

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The Accidental Counsellor Short Course Module 3: Boundaries and Knowing When To Refer

In this topic, we’ll be discussing how mental health is managed, not cured. Understanding that mental health is managed and not cured means that we need to be mindful of the strategies we are using to manage our mental health and we need to recognise that if we change or stop those strategies, we will most likely relapse. People often make the mistake of thinking,

By Biasi Rocky
The Accidental Counsellor Short Course Module 2: The Solution Focused Approach

The Accidental Counsellor training that I’ve created is based on the Solution-Focused Approach to counselling and communication. Let’s start with the following solution-focused questions: What are you hoping to learnmost from this short course? Once you answer that question,reflect on the reason it’s important for you to learn that now? If you could learn that and put it into action,how

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The Accidental Counsellor Short Course Module 1: What is an Accidental Counsellor?

Welcome to the online Accidental Counsellor Short Course, a brief 80 minute overview of the Accidental Counsellor Training that I created back in 2008. The goal of this short course is to help you connect and influence with the people that you support without burning out yourself through the Accidental Counsellor model. In that model, we will look at strategies based in three key

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Johanna Lynch
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Kelly, Jane and I attended the March Accidental Counsellor Training and have been following your techniques and it has made such an impact on our new Pastoral Care Centre.

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Kirstie Brass
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I was lucky enough to try out some techniques with a year eight girl today and I felt 100% more confident speaking to a young girl who has been reluctant to open up to anybody and has been in and out of hospital over the past month. Before I knew it 45 minutes had passed and I had said barely anything. The student said “it was nice to actually talk and not be lectured”.

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Catherine Pearse
Heathcote High School

I will be able to take these strategies to my faculty and help them deal with their management difficulties.

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St Clair High School
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