What if the problem is not the problem?

August 29th, 2009

I was asked to present a workshop on Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) last Sunday to a small group of dedicated “tappers”! Thanks Su-Yin!

I presented the history of energy healing and the development of TFT, to EFT and how Steve Wells and Dr David Lake adapted this amazing tools to create simple energy techniques (SET) and provocative energy technique (PET).

In addition I showed how Byron Katie’s “The Work” a simple 4 question process that questions and challenges our stressful thoughts can be integrated with the new energy psychology tapping methods.

The key and title of the workshop is, “What if the Problem is not the Problem?”

The reason I gave this training this name is because in my own life and in my clinical counselling practice I often see that what is the presenting problem is not really the problem!

OK, what do I mean!

Here are some issues:

Fear of Public Speaking, snakes, spiders, panic attacks when driving, being in shopping centers, etc.

It seems that the problem is as stated above. However, it is not public speaking but how public speaking makes us feel, that is the problem!

Isn’t this the “hidden” problem behind all our issues, complaints, gripes, trauma, anxiety , fear, panic etc. etc.

This is where the New Energy Treatments such as EFT and SET are invaluable. The underlying principle is that the cause of all Negative Emotion is a disruption in the body’s energy system. Tapping on different pressure points activated the meridian energy centers in our bodies and assists the energy from the emotion to move through us.

To find out more about this workshop and EFT and SET go to www.humanconnections.com.au

The Accidental Counsellor

August 29th, 2009

I’ve just returned from a roadtrip to Canberra and Albury to present the Accidental Counsellor Training to teaching staff in student well-being roles.

What a great trip (good to have the family with me) and I really enjoyed working with teachers from both Canberra an Albury. Well that’s not accurate! Some travelled 4 hours to come in Albury and we also had some Victorian Schools.

The feeback was terrific and I’ll post some video testimonials on the website.

I developed the Accidental Counsellor Training because as a Year Coordinator for 10 years I could see first hand that my counselling training wa very handy! Most teachers (admin staff also) should have some basic counselling skills, skills to help with active (reflective listening), to assess and refer, how to make positive thinking work, facilitating solutions with questions from Solution Focused Brief Therapy.

To find out more about the Accidental Counsellor Training go to the teacher training part of the website and click on the accidental counsellor link.

Married 21 Years!

July 23rd, 2009

WOW! Married 21 Years!

I can still remember when I was 21 What can I say? Well if you are wondering, no it hasn’t been easy at times, and YES, Anna and I love each other more today than we did in our early married life. I have seen it go the other way for others. My many thanks to David Lake, Angela Wood and my many other teachers none other than my beautiful wife!

Words really can’t explain our journey, the truth is there were some really tough times when we both had doubts the marriage would last. If pressed, I would have to say that acceptance is the “emotion” or energy that has deepened our love and respect. David Lake in his book “She’ll be Right – Why Men aren’t getting it” describes how acceptance grows love, respect, friendship etc. and how the poison of criticism is the cancer that eats away at our relationships (and ourselves)

The beautiful thing is that I have experienced the promise that committed, long-term, loving realtionships can offer – unconditional love!!!

I’m a counsellor so forgive me but I have to add my tips to this. If things are not going well in your relationship remember:

  • They don’t mean to hurt you. Yeah, that’s right it is not intentional. If it is, (and it’s a fact, not a story in your head) it may be time to get out!
  • Remember, love can be tough to understand and apply, but friendship and being a good friend is something we all now
  • It goes without saying that abuse should not be tolerated – get help!
  • Consider depression. hard to move forward if one or both are depressed!
  • Take responsibility to lift your energy levels rather than “sucking” each other dry
  • I could go on…finally
  • You don’t need any of these or other tips
  • You know what to do – you both did it when you got together in the begining! Treat her the same! Yeah the “her” was delibrate – lets step up men!
  • P.S. Who said I was not easy to live with :)

Cheers

Rocky